Feeding your baby doesn't feel natural or easy for you. It feels like a struggle. Your baby arches their back and their body feels stiff & tense.
Your baby doesn't open their mouth wide enough so their latch feels shallow, chompy or pinches.
Your nipples hurt! Breastfeeding feels like your nipples are being rubbed with: sandpaper, a cheese grater, shards of glass or tiny baby sharks. The pain makes you gasp, curl your toes, cry or want to scream. You dread every feed.
You feel like you feed and comfort your baby all day and all night. You feel like you need a break. You want your body back.
You're worried that your baby isn't getting enough to eat.
A massive sense of relief from stress, pain and constant worry.
A baby that melts into your arms and falls asleep content with a full belly.
Feeling relaxed, comfortable and confident while feeding.
As your baby feeds more effectively you'll have more time for yourself.
Here's how you get there:
I balance the tension in your baby's body in a gentle and relaxing way.
Some babies just need a little help unwinding and straightening out so that their body's work better and that they feel better.
.Tension in your baby's body can make it hard for them to feed, burp, poop, fart, settle and sleep more deeply and longer.
It might not feel good for them to be in certain positions.
That's why feeding or tummy time can feel stressful.
That's why they prefer one breast over the other.
That's why they arch their back and push away from you.
That's why they clench their jaw, making it hard to open their mouth for a deep latch.
That's why they like to be held upright instead of laying down on their back or tummy.
These are all signs that your baby needs help balancing that tension in their body so that they can comfortably and effectively feed in all positions and feel more settled with a full belly.
Try the football hold if your baby is fighting you in cross cradle. If that works better it's likely your baby has tension in their head, neck and shoulders which makes cross-cradle too difficult or painful for them.
Try feeding your baby laying down. If it's better it might be that they have a problem curling their body forward like they'd need to for cross cradle. The tension in their back can be pulling them backwards instead of forwards. These are the babies that arch their back and push away.
Why does this happen?
As your baby's body grew bigger inside of you, the space around them got smaller. And during their birth their body was squeezed by powerful contractions. This can cause their body to feel pinched, pulled, twisted or compressed. That's why your baby cries when they don't like certain positions like being on their back, tummy, side or in the car seat.